Honouring the Milestones

Our Reminder about Grief

Grief is personal. Grief has no time limit. Grief cannot be denied. Grief is not always bad, it is a connection to those we have lost.

Each year passes and we can't stop it. The days tick by, and within those days are the milestones. There are so many days that bring the loss of our loved ones into sharp focus. Its another year without them for Easter, for summer vacations, for Halloween, for Christmas and most especially their birthday.

January is the month CJ was born. January 27th. 1994.The most incredible day.

Now we face that day, that comes every year, but without him. He will be forever24, but the day he was born keeps coming every year.

This year CJ would have been 30. A milestone for sure. The sixth birthday without him.

I don't pretned not to be sad. I am sad and miss him so much and will share that with anyone who needs to talk about how they miss him. I cry tears for him and will cry with anyone who wants to. But what I want the most is to remember him and to share that with others.

I have a choice as his birthday approaches. I can be angy and upset and sad about the future that he never had and never will. Or I can look back through the pictures at his wonderful life and the beautiful people he got to know. I reviewed hundreds if not thousands of pictures. Looking at the incredible life he did have in just 24 years.

I also choose to believe that whre he is, he still hears the music and its sweeter than ever. I choose to believe that he sees us all and is happy. I choose to believe that he know that we are thinking of him.